Women have an edge when it comes to reading people. With thousands of years of development you need to understand that we are accessing something amazing. Dr. Helen E. Fisher, anthropologist and author of First Sex says that our brain circuitry evolved so we could size up people and situations that threatened our survival and being able to tune in allowed women to save their babies.
Don’t turn your backs on this marvelous gift instead of harnessing the power.
At the very least –listen to the hunches and couple it with logic to double check your belly brain.
Intuition is one more tool for making choices.
Here’s when you can trust the reliability:
1) When you have experience in something your instincts will be sharper. For example, you grew up driving in extreme weather conditions so even though you might live in Florida or California you need to honor your instincts to stay home when it pours.
2) When your body talks to you. If you feel exhausted, get a horrible headache or experience pain when you are around a prospective customer than something is “off” and wrong, this may not be a great fit. (If you are skeptical do research to see if you can find someone who knows them and get a sense on them.)
3) When you are going to invest beaucoup bucks or time notice your feeling and check it. If you are going to spend thousands investing in a program that promises the world and it feels wrong you need to sleep on it. If you are going to spend lots of time on a project—check to see if it feels right. Use your logic and check on it —see if there are lots of bad reviews.
Intuition isn’t 100% reliable. But it’s a valid tool for making choices and a very cool GPS. I am using it more to follow my joy. If someone feels good and it feels right I trust it and proceed. Here’s the caveat—when it feels really right it’s rarely wrong.
Case in point: My friend created a live website on spec for a company, her partner urged her to do the minimum amount of work because she only had 24 hours to complete it. She ignored his advice because she had strong chemistry with the prospect and she felt it was important to strut her stuff. Ultimately the deal worked out to be a $30K+ deal that went well beyond website development and she was able to sell them a bigger package. She told me she just knew it would work out like that. Thank goodness she honored her intuition.